Quest 15 - Online Dating 101

Sarah Carey (@Roguetastic), Daniel Jerome (@Battlestargablacktica), and Jerni (@The_Jerni) have put together a comprehensive guide on how to create the perfect online dating profile.


Online Dating 101:

-Basically a resume, with private information. your dating application for submission

-This guide is for serious dating, if you are looking to just hook up... then just put a bunch of slutty, shirtless, modeling type pictures, and a cheesy pick up line in your bio. Done. always use a condom kids.

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-User Names-

  • What should it be?

  • Should it have your real name? i say no....

  • nicknames and handles are best options

  • Don’t overthink it, just make sure its not something that makes you look stupid

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-Pictures-

  1. Cool Selfie (Only Self taken one)

  2. A waist up picture

  3. A full Body

  4. Personality Pic (Hobby, interests, Etc.)

  5. Cool, Exciting, Adventurous, picture of you that shows you are fun.

  • -Clear pictures of you

  • -No weird filters (Snapchat Stuff)

  • -Some editing is fine

  • -No weird angles

  • -No bathroom Selfies

  • -Keep setting of picture clean

  • -Make sure you smile on at least one, the more the better.

  • -no sunglasses and beanies (maybe one)

  • -All pictures should only have you in them. no friends included.

  • -Recent pictures is best

  • -Pick Pictures you look natural in. no head shots!

  • -Show personality

*Pick the best one as your main picture.

Erni’s first batch of pictures discussed during the podcast:

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-About Me-

  1. Be honest, be yourself

  2. Fill it out as much as you can.

Tips for writing the bio:

  • -Make a list of all the things you want people to know about you. everything

(longer the list, the better)

  • -from the list; narrow down your favorite things(be aware of what you want to attract) use this for about me.

  • -all extra things from list will help you with other bio questions.

  • -have a close friend review what you wrote.

  • -the more you add, the more you get out of it.

*Unfortunately, the whole online game is mostly more about looks than anything. so bio comes 2nd, but still very important for when conversation is initiated. helps the other person find things to talk to you about.

*Sarcastic funny one. (Bad Example, Self-Deprecating, talking negatively about self)

Things about me: #1.Sucks at talking about self.

That about sums it up... so here is my 22nd...(*edit 23rd) About Me draft...

So I am a cancer... yeah... you can probably already guess what it would be like to date me.

Here are things that i will soon be successful at: YouTubing, Podcasting, Writer, Banana Hammock Model, musician in a one hit wonder band.

Disclaimer: I have Tattoos, and i am planing to get more... more goal is to be a suicide Boi (that is a thing right?)

My all time greatest dream is to one day fly up into space, look down upon our big and beautiful blue planet, and give it the finger.

For all other information please submit all questions through my inbox with proper postage.

*Prior Example Fixed

So here is my 22nd...(*edit 23rd) About Me draft...

I am a cancer... that basically sums up what it would be like to date me.

Here are some things that i want to be rich and famous for one day: YouTubing, Podcasting, Writing, Banana Hammock Model, and a Musician in a one hit wonder band.

Disclaimer: I have Tattoos, and i am planing to get more... im not aiming for INKED magazine cover tattoos... but more like Suicide Boi amount of tattoos... if that is actually a thing.

My all time greatest dream is to one day fly up into space, look down upon our big and beautiful blue planet, and give it the finger... and then apologize for it on twitter.

For all other information please submit all questions through my inbox with proper postage.

*Geeky one.(Good Example)

Im an extroverted introvert that lives a double life as a social media influencer and closet geek.

During the day i am nothing more than a 9-5 Reporting Analyst, with an expertise in MEMEology. you can often find me at rock shows, or public areas filming hilarious skits for my social media, youtube channel, or podcasts. Jack of all trades is my nickname, and i have an untapped reserve of amazing friends across Southern California.

But during the night.... i am most likely asleep. but when the caffein kicks in properly, i am binge watching netflix, downloading blockbuster movies, indulging on anime, and failing at getting through my large library of unplayed video games.... its an addiction i am actually quite proud of... FYI Will Ferrell quotes are my shit.

if you have any other questions the answer is... 42

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-Other Rules-

  • -Don’t swipe on friends

  • -Never add income

  • -only swipe on people you are ACTUALLY interested in. (No serial swiping)

  • -know your audience, what you are aiming for.

  • -Never go off app to another app or website.

  • -only give out your number after getting to know them on the app first.

  • -Actually read their profiles, dont get mad if they turn out to be trans and you didnt read that.

  • -Most important: only start dating when you feel ready and feel optimistic and positive about it. If you don’t have a positive mind set going in... well it will only get worse

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-The Search-

  • -Try to date in you area or somewhere you are OK with commuting to.

  • -Spotting out fake and catfishing profiles is tricky. Be weary of super model profiles and look for patterns in speech and obvious misspellings.

  • -if they wont meet, video chat, or confirm identity.... Avoid.

  • -look for most recently logged on users

  • -new users a plus

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-Ice Breakers-

  • -no guaranteed ice breaker, its all chance

  • -avoid "Hi" or "your gorgeous"

  • -go for the real but cute approach...

  • -always use something from their profile so they know you read through it and are’nt copying and pasting messages.

  • -(The New Jerni Technique) "H.C.Q." or "H.Q.C." *its a formula* (Hi + Comment/Cut to chase + Question)

*HCQ* Hi (name). I really liked what you have on your profile like "example" example" Down to chat and go from there?

*HQC* hey there, Where was that (describe picture) taken? That looks really cool. I want to try that (or) That's definitely something I want to check out

*HCQ* Hi (name), there's not much on your profile so I'll keep it short. Would like to get to know you more. Down to chat? silently judge each other? and go from there?

*HCQ* hey! i got to say.. those beautiful eyes, that cute nose, the soft fur. im super jealous of your dog lol.... how long have you two been together? (this one is mine... for dog lovers.)

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-Keeping the conversation alive-

*Dont start right away with these. These are not openers.

  • -The F.O.R.D. method (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams)

  • -"2 lies, 1 truth" game.

  • -"Would you rather" game

  • -(my game)"Hitman cupid", take turns, ask the other to kill one person, enchant one person. hitman responds: yes or no to request.

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-Aiming for the first date-

*Your goal from the beginning should be to meet them in IRL.

  • -The right moment to ask for a meet up is..... well whenever it feels right for both of you.

  • -get to know them so you know where you can go for the meet up.

  • -Be safe, meet in public, let your friends know where and with who you will be with and check in on them throughout the night.

  • -Things to know about IRL meetings

    • -be the same person you were online

    • -always be safe.